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Ideal Fostering is a well established Independent Fostering Agency, serving the West Midlands and surrounding areas, with over 40 years of experience in the area within the management team.  Over the years we are proud to have been a part of hundreds of inspiring and quite simply 'happy' fostering journeys. We provide family based high quality care for Children and Young People and are dedicated to achieving the best outcomes for looked after children whilst ensuring our foster carers feel well supported.  Recruiting devoted, caring foster carers and getting placement matching 'right' is at the heart of what we do. Whether you are a prospective foster carer looking to join a supportive friendly agency, a Local Authority looking to place a child/young person or a young person seeking more information about Ideal Fostering,  we would love to hear from you.

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#Therapeutic Fostering. What are we talking about?  March '19 


5 reasons why Friendships are hard for poorly attached children

Friendships can be particularly hard for those who are living in foster care. A looked after child with healthy friendships with their peers is not so common. Why? 

1. They Haven’t Learned How To Do Relationships.

The parent-child relationship becomes the unconscious template for all future relationships. Children who have not had a positive attachment to their caregivers will find all other relationships tricky. Foster Carers can support this by offering themselves as a safe adult to whom the child can attach but this is often a long process and does not meet the immediate demands the child has for wanting friendships now.

2. Their Emotional and Chronological Ages Don’t Match.

Fostered children often say how they feel different to their peers and the typical adult response is to tell them that everyone is different or to point out their similarities. I get this, in the past I’ve done it myself. It’s horrible to see your child so upset and we all can empathise with the desire to feel included. Consider restraining from this approach. Traumatised children usually are different and they know it. Tell them this isn’t the case in their eyes makes you either a liar or someone who doesn’t really understand them. 

3. They Keep Moving Foster Placements.

Whilst we would all hope that young people don’t have quite so many placement moves it must be recognised that it is unusual for a young person to come in to the care system and find permanency with a family straight away – and even if this does happen they still have experienced the loss of the familiarity of their birth family. So why would these young people invest in friendships they expect to lose? Isn’t it understandable that they guard their heart from further hurt? 

4. They Are Drawn Towards Similar Children.

There is a strong unconscious pull for them to be in relationship with other young people with similar experiences to them. So great, they have a friend. The problem is that now instead of one child who doesn’t understand how to do friendships you have two and that needs a heck of a lot of support.

5. They Haven’t Been Taught How To Play.

Play is something we learn. Fostered children often haven’t had this experience in their early years. They need to understand issues like turn-taking, sharing, imaginative play, winning and losing. Your 14 year old might need you to teach them to play in the same way a 2yr old does.

I wonder if any of these points might be true for your child? How do you support their social skills? .


We serve the following locations and surrounding areas; Birmingham, Walsall, Solihull, Staffordshire and all of its districts, Dudley, Sandwell, Wolverhampton, Wednesbury, West Bromwich, Telford and Wrekin, Halesowen, Rowley Regis, Tipton, Wednesfield, Stourbridge, Bilston, Coseley, Oldbury, Stoke on Trent, Newcastle, Warwickshire, Coventry, Worcestershire, East Midlands. If your area is not on the list please still do contact us, it does not mean we do not cover you.

Ideal Fostering
Anchor House | 4 Bridgeman Street
Walsall WS2 9NW



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