When I started fostering I was sure that I was doing the right thing in the way I was expressing my love to the children. However, sometimes I felt that although I was showing love the child did not feel that I cared.
This was baffling me until I have found a quick read book by Chapman and Campbell called “5 Love Languages of Children”. This book opened my thinking and my eyes. And that I could adapt how I show my love to suit the child better.
And all of us tend to drift towards one main type. This helped to improve the relationship and understanding between me and my child.
I even discovered that my top love language is Quality Time and that my husband’s love language is Words of Affirmation.
EUREKA! This discovery gave a boost to us as a couple as now know to sometimes let my husband know more often how much I love him and am proud of him, and my husband now understands how important it is for him to make time for me every day so that I feel loved.
Knowing about the different love languages had helped me to meet the needs of our children and connect with them much at a higher level as they have totally different love languages to mine.
If you ever feel that despite showing your children/people unconditional love you are not getting it right or are not feeling it back – then I strongly recommend the book: 5 Love Languages of Children, by Drs Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell.
GFB, Ideal Foster Carer July 2020