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5 Steps to healing from Emotional Trauma
“From great difficulties come great opportunities for growth”
This isn’t some ‘positive thinking’ spiel (although of course there is a place for that too!). Working with trauma involves approaching it from a perspective that sees it for what it is/was. It’s not always easy to find something positive, but it’s an important part of releasing the hold that it can have over your life long after the traumatic event has stopped.
You survived it! “It stopped and I was safe again’. When we allow ourselves to understand that our trauma situation has ended, it places that experience in our past and helps us understand that we are now safe. Our trauma may still affect us, but we are no longer at risk and can truly work on healing.
Once you’ve accepted that you survived, think about why, probably many factors. Maybe someone came to your rescue, or maybe you have a lot of inner resilience, try not to focus on what you think could have happened or what you feel you did wrong. It’s understandable to feel anxious that you may be in a similar situation again, but instead think about what you did right that enabled pure and simple; survival.
Every experience in life is a chance to learn and to grow and there are always lessons to take. Maybe you are more capable of surviving than you thought you were, maybe you’ve found out your friend is more supportive than you could have ever imagined. Maybe you’ve learnt a way to avoid such a trauma in the future or perhaps a good way to repair what happened.
Whatever, happened; happened, it was out of your control. However, you can control how it impacts your future. It is over, you can heal from it and use it in a way to enhance your future. This does not usually come from ignoring it, although it is understandable that you may try to put it in the past and get on with life. This may work in the short-term, but trauma needs to be processed before it can be truly overcome.
Making a decision to work through trauma instead of trying to ignore it, allows us to take a much more positive approach to the difficulties themselves, getting professional support is at the foundation of this. The trauma doesn’t need to hold us back. Many very inspiring people have made a big impact in this world because of very difficulties they experienced when they were younger.